BDSM test
About
So BDSM stands for "bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism"... and this little page is me just promoting an incredible test for BDSM. Even if you think you are in no way into BDSM it's a really fun way to reflect on and identify how dominant and/or submissive you are I the bedroom. Do it with your partner and maybe you'll dream up some fun new ideas!
The test itself is:
People who are really deep into the BDSM world typically have profiles on website like fetlife.com where they upload their results from the test BDSM test! Pretty cool right? I'm not on fetlife..... never was, so sorry if that makes me boring. I've lived in San Francisco, so I am not vanilla but I'm consider myself pretty moderate when it comes to "San Francisco standards" for BDSM - I like some light restraint stuff, blindfolds etc.... but if I ever had a partner ask me to dress in head-to-toe leather and slap their face I don't think I could. You do what makes you comfortable.
My only real constructive complaint about this test, is that it doesn't explicitly mention that you are different ways with different people. If you are empathic and get turned on by turning your partner on, you are probably pretty flexible with what will will enjoy or not enjoy! Furthermore, the test doesn't reflect the idea that some people are the most turned on by deep connection.... Meaning that if you are demisexual (like me), then unless you feel a wonderful energy and respect with someone, then no amount of ropes or whips will make sex feel fulfilling. You might not even be aroused unless you know there is a deep connection.
So here let me allow me to share a single page from my "Sex = Ice Cream" book that I'm proud of. It's the "BDSM flavor" where I call out that BDSM is often misunderstood. BDSM people are often not promiscuous at all, but what they usually are is deeply appreciative of boundaries and building a deep level of trust in sex which contributes immensely to them feeling turned on during engagement. Even if you regard yourself as strictly vanilla, you have to admire and respect that the BDSM and sex-positive community is helping lead the way in boundaries for women and men.
Online Test
Curious? Take the online test! It only takes ~10 minutes:
My Results and Thoughts
Wouldn't you like to know! :)
Usually for all the online personality tests I do and write about (eg: Love languages), I record my results publicly. Here I am a little shy to do that publicly, but I will say I was surprised and smiled in Jun 2020 when I did the test and I had 84% Primal (Hunter), 76% Dominant, 65% Switch, 63% Master/Mistress, 59% Brat tamer, 58% Experimentalist... and I'm not going to tell you what I got 95% and 94% in! Maybe ask me. Hahaha. This is a fun test to talk about with friends.
Sincerely,
Andrew Noske
See Also
Links
- bdsmtest.org - Official test.
- Wikipedia BDSM - to learn more. Or just ask ChatGPT.
