Attached (book)
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About
Feels like everyone is talking about this book! Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love Paperback by Amir Levine. Many of my female friends on Hawaii in 2021 were talking about dating and putting everything into this vocabulary. It got to the point where my amazing friend Ann Swanson bought me a copy of the book.
I haven't finished reading this book yet honestly, but I am excited to share my results from the test in the middle of the book.
Attached Test
There are other tests you can take online... such as this one: Dr. Diane Poole Heller’s Attachment Styles Test... but the results I give are from the actual book:
- Date last taken: 2021-05-28
- Results:
- Anxious: 2
- Secure: 13
- Avoidance: 5
Main Premise
There are three distinct types of attachment style: secure, anxious, and avoidant.
- Securely attached people generally had a healthy childhood and are better at approaching intimate relationships.
- Anxious and avoidant people find intimacy more of a struggle. This is often because of a trauma in early life, such as neglect, poor parenting, or an abusive relationship.
Secure Attachment
About half of the population have a healthy, secure attachment style. This means they are comfortable with intimacy, and tend to be more satisfied in their relationships.
Anxious Attachment
Anxiously attached people become incredibly unhappy and worried about being too much or too little for the person they are dating, and take everything incredibly personally. They don't really live in the moment, but instead place a lot of high hopes on their partner, and get attached to their potential.
Avoidant Attachment
People with an avoidant attachment style tend to completely avoid relationships, or keep anyone new they meet at a distance. They may sabotage their blossoming romances out of nowhere, because they are scared their new partner will leave them, so they often make sure they are the first to leave.
