Open communication scale
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The 0 to 10 "Open communication" scale below was inspired by a visit to see all my friends in Hawaii in 2022. I have friends who are super private and one or two friends who massively overshare... okay so maybe just me for the oversharing, but it is fascinating that there is a range of people here.
My Graphical Representation of the "Open communication scale" (0-10)
Why This Open Communication Scale Is Helpful
I think the challenge here is to not judge people who are more private or more public than your comfort level. Sharing everything can be a really beautiful thing in dating to build trust, vulnerability and intimacy.... but others find that a sense of mystery is what they are attracted to. In the context of dating, please just do good safe sex conversation if you are dating around and not updating your partners on your sexual advitivies.
This scale applies to non-sexual relationships too by the way. Like your relationship with your boss.
For dating though, you can ask early on where someone falls! There are no rules about doing so.... if they refuse to answer you can assume they are 1-2. :)
Sincerely,
Andrew Noske
See Also
- Love to lust scale - A fun one for dating... ask your match on online dating where they fall.
- Honesty scale - A very similar scale to this one.
- Safe sex responsibility scale - Very important to help keep your partner safe - by doing a good safe sex talk like The CHIP Safe Sex Conversation.
| Acknowledgements: My amazing friend Lyuba for being the best communicator I know... also two of my favourite Hawaiian girls who are at the extreme opposite of the scale, and give me an appreciation that being private has its perks too. It's a risky game, but most people seem to get away with it. Not me! |
